Compatibility test

                                                                                      

Before you choose, have it in mind that you are only allowed to choose 10 bullets from the must haves and ten bullets from the I can’t stand. These rules are not 100% sure but they serve to be a guide in minimizing our excesses in what we want from others. It helps prioritize our wants from our needs in a relationship without deception to the self; making us to cherry-pick the best that we want and we don’t want, so that healthy relationship can be ensured. If we are able to choose and scrutinize want we can tolerate and what we can’t tolerate, we best head for a rewarding relationship. We are not perfect and we can’t expect others to be - but in all, relationship is more about commitment and tolerance, the art and height of greater friendship. These tests only ensure a proper priority guide.

Session: 10 must haves

·         This is called a bullet

1.       Spiritual passion :

·         members of your church/ organization

·         spiritual commitment

·         believer

2.       family:

·         someone who share desires not to love children

·         someone who share desires to have children or adopt

·         someone who accepts step children

·         someone who can accept a person from a broken home or polygamous family

3.       Parenting style:

·         Someone who shares my view on how to raise kids

·         Someone who can treat the family

4.       Social living:

·         Someone who loves spending quiet evenings with friends

·         Someone who love spending time with lots of people.

·         Someone who will give me space to be my own person

5.       Finance:

·         Financially responsible

·         Who is not in debt

·         Someone who shares my financial views on a high scale

6.       Sexuality:

·         Someone who is a virgin

·         Someone who is a celibate

·         Someone who is mature freely and can express their sexuality freely

·         Someone who is adventurous in sexuality

·         Someone who is conservative in sexuality and understanding

7.       Family Life:

·         Someone who is committed to the family, home and marriage

·         Someone who is willing to share my interest and passion

8.       Style and Appearance:

·         Someone who cares about the way they look, dress and has a sense of personal style

9.       Politics:

·         Someone who shares my political views

10.   Community:

·         Someone who shares your views on commitment services and supports it

11.   Emotions:

·         Someone you are deeply in love with and attracted to

·         Sharp and humorous

·         Someone who talks and listens well

·         Someone who shares deep thought and desires

·         Emotionally healthy (stable family background)

12.   Verbal intimacy:

·         Someone who does not have problems expressing their emotions- love verbal intimacy, encouragement etc.

·         Someone who is honest and strong enough to do the night thing in spite of consequence

·         Someone who is interested in Art(music, poetry, gallery, painting, etc)

·         Someone who values structure in their lives i.e not turning left or right-plan before they do things

·         Someone who is willing to take risk (financial the most, etc)

·         Someone who is willing to hear and appreciate divergent view point- flexible

·         Someone who is attractive by present world standard

·         Someone who would work to resolve rather than win conflicts

13.   High IQ:

·         Someone who shares my intellectual skills/ideas

·         Someone who is confident-not proud, not of low self esteem

·         Someone who can accept criticism and admit that they are wrong

·         Someone who is willing to receive outside help for marriage

·         Someone who is hungry for new information and knowledge\

·         Someone I can count on for whatever it is

·         Someone who has the ability to adapt to life surprises.

14.   Others:

·         Someone who enjoys people and is generous with compassion

·         Someone who works hard at whatever they do

·         Someone who maintains a high standard of hygiene

·         Someone who is comfortable receiving and giving affections e.g kisses, holding hands not minding the environment.

Second session:10 I can’t stand

·         Someone who is deeply interested in their physical appearance

·         Someone who basis his/her happiness on me

·         Someone who is constantly depressed

·         Someone who cheats and takes advantage of people

·         Someone who can’t manage their anger

·         Someone who is self –centered / selfish

·         Someone who is impatient, belittling, hateful i.e sees you as nothing/ object not human

·         Some who is materialistic

·         Someone who likes to couch-potato

·         Someone who easily lose perspective/ worries a lot (habitual worriers)

·         Someone who bias a victim mentality (always feeling castigated)

·         Someone who is devious and mean

·         Someone who is emotionally immature

·         Someone who is petty

·         Someone who is financially immature

·         Someone who is vulgar and of disrespectful behavior

·         Someone is bulky/ overweighs

·         Someone who gambles

·         Someone who is constantly late

·         Someone who flirts a lot with their opposite sex

·         Someone who thinks they are of a superior ethnic group

·         Someone who is not clean/neat

·         Someone who has double standards/ fickle/ easily changes

·         Someone who gossips

·         Someone who find faults in/ with everything /everyone

·         Someone who loves pornography/addicted to pornographies

·         Someone who is unkempt

·         Someone who is unreliable

·         Someone who cheats in relationship/business

·         Someone who do not enjoy having sex on a regular basis

·         Someone who is sexually obsessive

·         Someone who nags

·         Someone who is arrogant/cocky/full of themselves

·         Someone who is shy/opening up in expressing themselves

·         Someone who is a pessimist